I am overwhelmed in the best way possible. Ever since I gave myself permission to be open to the idea of creating positive change in my life and believing that I was the one who could (and had to) create it, that that’s exactly what happened; a surge and abundance of positive change.
I started by making one positive change in one area of my life and what followed was a cascade of further changes. These changes whether big or small, involving others or only myself, created a ripple effect that I did not expect. I was so pleasantly surprised by what I was creating and setting in motion that these initial changes acted as a catalyst for further change. I took a step in the right direction, then another and another until I realised I was well on my way to creating a better life for myself.
Ever notice that, how you experience a positive shift in your life and that breeds more positive change?
It hasn’t always been this way for me. Those who know me well will know I don’t warm to change all that well and have a tendency to hold onto the past (or shall I say used to). Life would throw a curveball at me that I didn’t see coming and certainly did not welcome so I would spend hours agonizing over why it happened and what I could have done to stop it from happening but the bittersweet thing about change is that no matter how much we resist it, the end result is the same. Change is inevitable.
I think what’s more pertinent than this is how we respond to change. Rather than fighting against it I now embrace it and take solace in the fact that no matter what is happening in my life something is always going to swoop in and shake things up, sometimes for the better sometimes for the worse and sometimes for the greater good. But that’s ok because it will change again and again, and again.
Everything will be ok in the end. If it’s not ok, it’s not the end.
When I stopped to ask myself why I was holding on so dearly to things in the past like old friendships that weren’t really providing me with any genuine happiness; warped ideas I had about what I ‘should’ look like and how I ‘should’ act because then my problems would miraculously dissolve, or a conversation I wish had turned out differently, I was amazed.
Amazed at how foolish I had allowed myself to become into thinking that these notions were the be all and end all of my existence. I was so blind sighted by these preconceived ideas and so narrow-minded that I was denying myself the chance to grow and welcome better things in my life and to live the life I want to live.
Interesting isn’t it how when we change a habit we may have been holding onto for some time that we free ourselves from being pigeon holed into living life a certain way?
For as long as I can remember I have been saying to others (and to myself) that I don’t know what I want to do with my life, don’t know what I want to do as a career, don’t know what I’m passionate about and the like but they were all big fat lies (of course I didn’t realise that at the time because I was clouded by my own naiveties).
I took a minute (ok maybe more) to stop and think about what I really want to do with my myself, what I want to invest my time, energy and money into, what kind of people I want to surround myself with, how I can nourish my body and mind, and who I want to be as a friend, a daughter, sister, partner, one day a mother and most importantly who I want to be for myself.
At the end of the day I want to be happy. I want to be healthy not only physically but emotionally and mentally too. I want to communicate with people from all walks of life and inspire them as much as they inspire me. I want to explore and immerse myself into what I am passionate about; nutrition, love, happiness, relationships to name a few.
I want to be content within myself, which means accepting my flaws and heaven forbid even learning to love them some day. I want to have the freedom and flexibility to create my life however I see fit. I want to have a job that is location independent. I want to make my dreams come true. I want abundant loving relationships in my life. I want to nourish my body with only nutritious and healthy foods. I want my mind to be at peace. I want to travel and be spontaneous. I never want to stop learning and growing so I can revel in knowing that I am always the best version of myself. I want to laugh often, love abundantly and smile big. I want to be creative, write, move, sing in the shower, bask in the sunshine and dance in the rain. These are the things that feed my soul, make me feel alive and will allow me to welcome change with open arms.
And when these changes come to greet me I am going to wrap my arms around them, give them a warm welcome and heartfelt hug because then and only then will I feel the warmth, positivity and generosity that I allowed it to bring me.
I would love to hear how you are going to welcome change in your life with open and loving arms?