LIFE: Why you should throw out the rulebook

Do you sometimes struggle going with the flow in life?

Are you unwilling to give up the fight, throw out the rulebook and say, “why the heck not?”

Do you wish the words spontaneity and adventure were part of your vocabulary?

I was recently having a chat with a dear friend of mine and I was discussing how I sometimes feel like I’m living a double life. Before you start coming up with imaginative ideas about what this might entail, it’s not as sassy as it might sound whereby in some alternate universe I’d be health & life coach by day; secret spy called Nikita by nightfall (oh I like the sound of that though).

I’m talking about the kind of double life where two consecutive days or every alternate day of my week is so very different. One day I can be completely content having a low key day with little to no social interaction; enjoy putting my comfiest tracksuit pants on at night, eating dinner, lighting a candle, reading a book, meditating, doing Reiki and then going to bed.

Contrast that with the next day…

.. where I can be a busy little bee or social butterfly like you wouldn’t believe because I’ve said yes to opportunities that come my way (or that I’ve manifested). I’ll have an idea of what my day/night is going to look like, make plans and then I can run into someone I know who invites me to have a coffee, tea, wine with them and I’ll say yes. During that catch up I might run into more people I know or meet new and wonderful people who present another experience. Before you know it my previous plans have gone out the window and there I am out past my bedtime having a fabulous, fun evening.

In those moments, I don’t question, I simply go with the flow. I spread my wings wide open and allow whatever presents itself to me to take flight. These moments are incredibly precious to me for I know they are the ones where I’m living out of love, not fear; choosing happiness over guilt and swinging my self-love flag for all the nations to see.

When I mentioned to my friend that I initially felt as though I was doing something wrong by living this “double life,” she said to me, “Nikki, guess what? That’s not a double life, you’re just living life. You’re having fun so just go with it.”
I really had to take pause and think about the simplicity of her words. The more I thought about her words, the more I realised she was right.

Live your life how you want to live it

As a health & life coach, I often feel there is immense pressure to look and act a certain way, only eat particular foods, be in bed at a specific hour and live life how other people might assume or expect me to 24/7.
As a result, I end up feeling as though I’m not being true to myself, which actually couldn’t be further from the truth. There is no guilt warranted in living my life how I choose to live it, because that’s how I choose to live it.

One of the things I love the most about myself (Psst…if you think I’m conceited for saying that, you need to practice some self-love sunshine) is my spontaneous nature and not allowing myself to become pigeonholed into what might be considered a “normal” routine or life.

I know you can do this too. You can fly like a butterfly and flap those wings to wherever you want.

If I choose to have at night at home where all I do is read, meditate, practice Reiki and contemplate life then that is perfectly ok. If I choose to spend the next night out and about socialising with anyone and everyone past the “norm” bedtime, dancing up a storm, so be it. I might choose to spend the next night immersed in business and blogging work, which is oh so rewarding and mighty fine too.

The contrast of how I spend my days perfectly reflects my true self, my inner essence. I’m humble and introverted; vivacious and extremely extroverted. I don’t follow the rules, I create my own because when I do, my mind, heart and eyes expand ten fold.

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”

Why do we second-guess or frown upon ourselves (or others) if we put our never-ending to-do list aside for a night or two and celebrate life?

Why do we feel boring or feel the need to justify ourselves if all we want to do is curl up on the couch with a cup of tea and read a good book?

Is there an area in your life where you know you’re being a little too rigid and could ease off the reins a bit? Are you focusing on perfection rather than enjoyment; guilt rather than self-love?

Live a little! Heck, scrap that, live A LOT!

Sometimes you have to throw out the rulebook, grab a piece of paper and write the damn words yourself to produce the most exciting, action-packed adventure novel which you’ll ultimately title, “Life!”

Declare loud and proud with me in the comments how you’re going to let go of those tightly held reins and enjoy the ride for a while? What’s your favourite way to throw out the rulebook and write a page in your book of Life?

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