How many times do you tell yourself something is ‘hard work?’

How many times do you hear a friend or a family member say something is too difficult to do?

How often do people talk themselves out of doing something because they deem the task at hand too grand or challenging?

How many days, weeks, months, and years go by before you come to the realisation that the truest ‘hard’ship of all is this:

Very rarely do the things we deem to be too hard, difficult or challenging actually turn out to be that hard, difficult or challenging?

It’s not as hard as you think…

To say no
To chose water over wine
To cook a quick, healthy satisfying meal instead of picking up MSG-laced Thai takeout
To replace self-hate with self-love
To pick up the phone and call instead of texting
+  To do a 30 day detox instead of consuming toxin after toxin, year after year
+  To smile as you pass someone on the street instead of looking down at your feet
+  To have an impromptu dance party in your lounge room mid week
+  To ‘screw beige’ and chase colourful people, places and experiences
To give yourself permission to live an extraordinary life

You know what is hard?

Not stepping up to pursue the life we want to and deserve to live.
Watching those days, weeks, months and years go by with very little to show (tangible or not) for them, whether personally or professionally.
Continuing to buy into outdated beliefs where we tell ourselves that we aren’t good enough or worthy enough.
Suffering and struggling emotionally, physically or financially when it doesn’t have to be that way.

What is hard is allowing our lives to continue to feel hard and heavy as if we are a mere spectator in our own life instead of the star player on the pitch.

It’s incredibly hard knowing you deserve just as much happiness, health, money (enter any and every desire of yours here) as the next person yet not demanding more for yourself and just accepting things as they are naively thinking ‘this is as good as it gets.’

I call bullshit.

Excuse the profanity but I always aced that card game growing up!

I say a big fat bullshit to that.

Call me naïve but I believe in a world where our lives can get better and better, a life where we actively participate and choose our circumstances by playing the leading lady, not the supporting role; at least that’s the life I chose to believe in and seek.

I choose to believe that we are here for SO much more than just to work hard trading time for money, ‘relaxing’ only two days on the weekend, then going back and doing it all over again for 52 weeks: 365 days: 8765 hours – year after year.

Work hard. Play little. Eat (poorly). Sleep (poorly). Repeat. No thank you.

What are you here for? What’s your purpose? What’s your passion? What do you want to do with your one wild and precious life? Who do you want to spend your days with? Where do you want to travel? What work do you crave? Where would you really like to call home? How do you want your mind and body to function? Who do you want to become and HOW do you plan on getting there?

Take it from me, I know.

I’ve asked myself these questions more times than I can count and don’t ever want to become complacent and stop asking them.

I want to be an active participant in my own life. I want to play the leading lady. I want to be the star player. I want to often find myself standing on a precipice and be willing to take the leap in the pursuit of achieving my dreams.

I’ll let you in on a little secret…

I’ve been there – you know – those difficult places I mentioned above? I’ve felt the pain, the suffering, the doubts and fears and niggling feelings embedded in my heart and soul, gnawing their way through the pit of my stomach.

I’ve felt low before, really low.

I’ve wondered what the point of anything and everything is, many moons over. I’ve cried my fair share of tears, enough to last a lifetime (but I know there’ll be many more).

I’ve sat on my balcony in the dead of the night pleading to the stars in the sky to make my pain stop when grieving the loss of loved ones or when the load has felt to heavy to shoulder.

I’ve felt rage. Deep thick gnarly rage.

But believe me when I say, I have I experienced the other end of the pendulum too, girl have I ever. I can say with my hand on my heart (with gratitude beaming through it) that these days, the pendulum resides at this end more than the aforementioned one.

However, it didn’t come without conscious decisions and choices, choices I continue to make every-single-day.

It didn’t come without making sacrifices and compromises. It didn’t come without having to painfully look at myself square in the eyes and face all the things I feared were true about myself.

It didn’t happen without having to force myself to say yes when I really wanted to say no, or through polarity having to grit my teeth and squeeze out a ‘no’ when I really wanted to say yes.

A few choice examples of this:

+ Late last year I decided to give up alcohol and coffee for 30 days, which then turned into 90 days! And I love coffee and red wine, but 3 months later, I did it!
+ I said no to going on two separate trips to Bali and Thailand (two places I’ve wanted to visit for a long time) as much as it pained me because I forced myself to look at the bigger picture
+ It meant spending money I didn’t have (when I was in debt) on coaches and courses in order to invest in myself and best serve my tribe (that’s you lovely)
+ It meant having to hold my tongue many times over because it was the right thing to do, even though it nearly killed me
+ It meant backing down or off when I was ready to pounce like a lion (because I knew I was right)


As I said, it’s about time you heard the truth…

So here it is…

Are you ready for it, really ready for it?

You are capable of making profound and positive choices in and for your life.
You can start living the life you want to live.
You can say no when that rings true for you.
You can say yes when you want to hiss the consonant so loud and proud.
You are worth it.
You and your life are worth taking risks or making sacrifices for.
You are worth putting your needs first.
You are worth an extraordinary life because you are extraordinary.
You deserve just as much as the next person. There is plenty to go around.

Late last year, I stepped up BIG time. I knew it was time to put my money where my mouth was and I made a decision that has positively and profoundly impacted my life in the best possible way, in every single way.

++ If you’d like to find out exactly what I did, come join me and my tribe of trailblazers. We are simply ordinary women wanting to live extraordinary lives; come play.

Hit ‘reply’ or email me at to find out how. ++

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There’s no better time like the present.

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+ Photo Credit: Jessica Polar


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